Does this qualify?
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Does this qualify?
Like a lot of people on here, I'm trying to determine if I fall under the category of demisexual but I have no one to ask so I'll ask here and see what happens.
First I would like to say, for the sake of full disclosure, I have yet to have any type of relationship or sexual encounters. I don't know if this effects anything because how can I know what I am if I've never experienced anything.
I've done some reading about demisexuality but I'm not sure if my own way of defining my process of attraction matches up. I don't feel right about being attracted to people I'm not absolutely sure are attracted to me and who I know I can trust. This first qualification seems to be very important to me. I'm not one of those people can think sexy thoughts about movie stars or hot people I've encountered, it feels wrong to me to fantasize about some who doesn't know who I am and who hasn't explicitly expressed that they are attracted to me. It feels like a violation of the other person to me for some reason. I've tried looking at porn just to see how I would react but I felt uncomfortable looking at it, especially the actors faces, it felt wrong. I can read the sex scenes romance novels and not feel weird but I think that might be because I'm not actually seeing it and because the characters care about each other.
I don't know if this qualifies me as demisexual but that's why I'm hoping someone can give me some insight.
First I would like to say, for the sake of full disclosure, I have yet to have any type of relationship or sexual encounters. I don't know if this effects anything because how can I know what I am if I've never experienced anything.
I've done some reading about demisexuality but I'm not sure if my own way of defining my process of attraction matches up. I don't feel right about being attracted to people I'm not absolutely sure are attracted to me and who I know I can trust. This first qualification seems to be very important to me. I'm not one of those people can think sexy thoughts about movie stars or hot people I've encountered, it feels wrong to me to fantasize about some who doesn't know who I am and who hasn't explicitly expressed that they are attracted to me. It feels like a violation of the other person to me for some reason. I've tried looking at porn just to see how I would react but I felt uncomfortable looking at it, especially the actors faces, it felt wrong. I can read the sex scenes romance novels and not feel weird but I think that might be because I'm not actually seeing it and because the characters care about each other.
I don't know if this qualifies me as demisexual but that's why I'm hoping someone can give me some insight.
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