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Post by thisisarihat on Mon May 06, 2013 4:11 pm

i have never found anybody attractive, never been able to call someone "hot" "pretty" "cute" whatever. I have only been sexually attracted to people I have a close bond to such as long term partners. but never found anyone physically attractive/appealing. But I can point out people that society/social groups would find attractive, based on what those people find attractive, I myself as I explained do not find people attractive. is this normal? that I know what others find attractive but I myself do not? can anyone else who doesnt find people physically appealing do this? i just need to hear some sort of reassurance

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Post by Halfling on Tue May 07, 2013 8:28 am

Heeeu.. You told last time it was your boyfriend... What is it ? Boyfriend writing here or in fact it concerns you ?!

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Post by thisisarihat on Wed May 08, 2013 4:49 am

its something my boyfriend posted to understand more.

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Post by Halfling on Wed May 08, 2013 8:39 am

Is it a problem for him ? Not to find anyone particularly beautiful ? Once he's in love, does he begin to find "attractiveness" in the one he loves ?
For him, everyone is ugly ? Or just "nor beautiful nor ugly" ? (sorry if this sentence isn't grammatically correct)


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Post by Aisling on Mon May 20, 2013 7:26 pm

To the OP, sorry for taking so long seeing your thread! I've had connection issues with the internet recently, or I'd've spotted it quite a bit sooner. >_<

Yes, what you describe is 'normal.' People on the ace spectrum don't have to experience attraction to be able to recognize what society has taught them represents attractiveness. Every culture has its own aesthetics that it pushes on us every time we see a piece of media with people in it. Certain facial features are exaggerated, emphasized, enhanced. Certain body types are displayed more than others. It is totally normal to be conscious of your culture's aesthetics as represented by their media, even if you don't feel attraction based on those aesthetics. Smile
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